Holidays

Warning the holidays are quickly approaching.  Are they really Happy Holidays for your family or are they difficult? As for me, it’s even harder because not only do I have my own blended family with stepchildren.  I am from a blended family myself.  So the holidays are very hard on me trying to make sureContinue reading “Holidays”

Forgiveness

To forgive or not to forgive, which one will you choose to do? Don’t you want that sense of freedom of not feeling like you’re in a jail cell? When you chose to not to forgive someone, it’s like you’re in a jail cell without any parole.  When you chose to forgive, you’re escaping theContinue reading “Forgiveness”

1:1 Time with Dad

One of the best things you could ever do as a Stepmom is to make sure your husband gets 1:1 time with his children. The reason being it is important that your husband gets that quality time with his children.  It’s also really important to tell the stepchildren verbally that “I will never get inContinue reading “1:1 Time with Dad”

Discipline Stepchildren

For any new blended marriage, I would recommend not getting involved with the disciplining of your stepchildren within the first couple of years into the relationship; leave that to your husband.  The reason why I am saying is, is because the stepchildren need to respect and trust you in their life. The stepchildren need timeContinue reading “Discipline Stepchildren”

Expectations

When you first got married to your husband, did you have expectations of how your blended family would be? When I got married to my husband, I had some expectations that weren’t said out loud, but they were in my mind. Some of my expectations were: That all of the children would get along andContinue reading “Expectations”

The Other Woman

Okay, I know you are probably wondering who is the other woman.  Who can she be referring too? The other woman in your marriage is your husband’s ex-wife. Early on in my marriage there were a lot of times where I felt like he is still married to his ex-wife.  Because whenever she called toContinue reading “The Other Woman”

Outsider Looking In

Have you ever felt like you’re an outsider in your own home? In the past, I have felt this way many times on the kid weekends. There were nights where I felt like I didn’t belong, felt like I didn’t exist even with my own kids in the mix with my stepchildren and husband.  ItContinue reading “Outsider Looking In”

The Smart Stepmom

There are very few books out there right now for blended families or that relates to being a stepmother, however, there is a really great book out there that I highly recommend for all Step Mothers, it is called, “The Smart Stepmom” by Ron L. Deal and Laura Petherbridge.  The book is wonderful for allContinue reading “The Smart Stepmom”

Dating your Husband

If you haven’t already, been doing this… you need to make your marriage your main Priority. Each of you needs to put each other first before the children and stepchildren. It’s important to get out at least once a week and have a date night with one another. In order to build a strong solidContinue reading “Dating your Husband”