Every time you smile, it lights up a room.
You’re such a caring person, I love how you care for people.
You are a great cleaner.
You are always so organized.
You’re a great decorator.
You’re always thinking of others, you are so thoughtful.
You can speak life of future into their lives by saying these statements to them:
You are going to make a great parent someday.
You’re going to become a great inventor.
You inspire others to be a good person.
You are great at figuring things out.
You are going to do such great things for God, when you get older.
Affirming words also can encourage your child to try new things. As Amy Baker & Paul Fine state parents who engage in mindful and positive parenting believe in their children and convey to them an attitude of encouragement and faith in their ability to solve their own problems, identify good solutions, and achieve their goals. When you see the best in a child it helps to encourage them to try new things. Trying new things helps them grow up to be independent adults. When you encourage your child, you show them that they are valued, respected, loved and trusted. All children need to feel that way from their parents. When your child shares their hopes and dreams with you, show enthusiasm towards it.
Affirmations for Yourself
Using affirmations for yourself can help release negative energy and turn it into positive energy. When dealing with something negative say to yourself “I will release these negative feelings and not let them have any more control and focus my attention only on the positive energy today. I chose to live today at the fullest.”
It’s also helpful to make a list of positive attributes.
I am a caring person.
I am a loving person.
I am a good person.
I am a generous person.
I am a creative person.
I am a smart person.
I am a positive person.
Rachelle Katz states that affirmations can also bolster your belief in your ability to grow, change, and improve your life. You can do this by writing a list of “I can” statements such as:
I can succeed
I can achieve
I can overcome anything
And try to use “I will” statements that will help you move to achieving any success in anything you want to accomplish.
Examples of “I will” statements are:
I will take on only what I can handle today.
I will control my emotions & feelings today.
I will control my temper & attitude today.
I will feel less guilt today.
I will be the best stepmom I can be today.
All of these will help you turn your negative affirmations about yourself over to positive affirmations. In order to give affirming words to our children, we also have to have our own positive affirmation about ourselves. Whatever we speak out of our mouths will come to pass, so speak positive affirming words not just to our children but to ourselves and our circumstances. We give life to whatever we speak. As Proverbs 18:21 says “Life and death are in the power of our tongue”. If we speak negative thoughts or words about ourselves or our children they will come to pass. Proverbs 6:2 says “We are snared by the words of our mouth”. Choose today to start speaking positively to our children and to ourselves. Try saying positive affirmations every day like: “I’m excited about today and about my future. Something good is about to happen to me today.” Or say this “I’m blessed. I’m healthy, I’m strong, I’m valuable, I’m talented, I have a bright future.” Try this and see if your days are better than before. See if your children’s attitude and behavior changes when you use affirming words on their lives. Remember that whatever you speak out loud, you give life too.
Amy L. Baker & Paul R. Fine (2014). Co-parenting with a Toxic Ex. What to do when your ex-spouse tries to turn the kids against you. New Harbinger Publications, Inc.
Rachelle Katz (2010). The Happy Stepmother. Stay Sane, Empower yourself, Thrive in your new family. Harlequin publishing company.
Kathy Lipp & Carol Boley (2015). But I’m not a Wicked Stepmother! Secrets of Successful Blended Families. Focus on the Family. Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.