StepMom Wins

There are times in your blended family where your step children will do something, say something, or get you something for you that melts your heart.  When these special moments arise you need to document them in a notebook. Also keep cards, keepsakes, or crafts they made you at school in a folder or box.Continue reading “StepMom Wins”

Break Through

It’s been awhile since I wrote on my blog and I apologize for that, but I took the summer to concentrate on my family. Do you have a difficult relationship with your step kids?  Well, I did on and off for this past eight years. It’s been up and down and at times more downContinue reading “Break Through”

The Talk

When this New Year came, I decided that I wanted to try to reach out to my husband’s ex-wife who has been nothing but very difficult to deal with over the past seven years.  I knew her birthday was coming up and decided to get her a nice birthday card and a gift card toContinue reading “The Talk”

Another Year, Another Birthday

Tonight, I sit here sad, down, depressed because another birthday has gone by where I can’t be a part of and I just feel broken inside that I am not allowed to help celebrate another year.  It’s so hard to sit here at home wishing I was there to help celebrate with them. I feelContinue reading “Another Year, Another Birthday”

Things to Avoid

When you become a stepmom it is hard to know how to treat your stepchildren. Sometimes it can be very stressful. There are certain things though that should never be said or done no matter what because it leaves permanent scars that every stepchild will remember forever.  Try to always keep the relationship positive andContinue reading “Things to Avoid”

Forgiveness

To forgive or not to forgive, which one will you choose to do? Don’t you want that sense of freedom of not feeling like you’re in a jail cell? When you chose to not to forgive someone, it’s like you’re in a jail cell without any parole.  When you chose to forgive, you’re escaping theContinue reading “Forgiveness”

1:1 Time with Dad

One of the best things you could ever do as a Stepmom is to make sure your husband gets 1:1 time with his children. The reason being it is important that your husband gets that quality time with his children.  It’s also really important to tell the stepchildren verbally that “I will never get inContinue reading “1:1 Time with Dad”

Outsider Looking In

Have you ever felt like you’re an outsider in your own home? In the past, I have felt this way many times on the kid weekends. There were nights where I felt like I didn’t belong, felt like I didn’t exist even with my own kids in the mix with my stepchildren and husband.  ItContinue reading “Outsider Looking In”

Dating your Husband

If you haven’t already, been doing this… you need to make your marriage your main Priority. Each of you needs to put each other first before the children and stepchildren. It’s important to get out at least once a week and have a date night with one another. In order to build a strong solidContinue reading “Dating your Husband”

1:1 Time

Invest your time with your stepdaughter.  Meaning go out and do things with her 1:1. But only do it if she’s already doing 1:1 things with her father.  It’s important that 1:1 time is spent with her father first on occasion before you do 1:1 things with her. I started spending time with my stepdaughterContinue reading “1:1 Time”